I sat in a parking lot today for God knows how long. Notebook in my lap, most of my possessions still stuffed around me in the car, Maggie snoring her little snores in the back.
I wrote one phrase down and just SAT with it.
“Doesn’t like being ordered around.”
This particularly stubborn part of me took hours to cough up more words, but usually it only takes a few minutes to come to some new sense of peace with myself.
It would be nice to say that I think I’m done with any of these aspects. It feels done FOR NOW, and that’s plenty.
Learning how to be with yourself at all is the foundation to getting anything done that feels meaningful.
In a session today I encouraged a woman to set aside time to be with herself and only herself. I said that if she started doing that she would probably stop having occasionally overwhelming bouts of emotion. The stuff is gonna find a way out, I argued. And you can learn to pause and be with it in the moment or you can design a reliable time and place each week, or day, where for at least a few minutes whatever is present can just come up and out and be seen and experienced by you.
It’s often hard for people to not make themselves wrong however it looks when they try to meditate and they end up getting frustrated and quitting. The point is to be with whatever happens, no matter what thoughts or feelings come up. Until the timer goes off.
It’s a lot more convenient if you set the time aside than if you wait for it to overwhelm you.
This is also my little secret for clients who want to be in touch with their spiritual sides - if you have some set-aside time to pause and be with what is, whatever it is, at least the Universe or whatever you believe in has a chance to make itself known to you.
Whether you choose to trust or believe it is up to you.
The sale is over but I won’t have wifi enough for a few days to switch everything back again, so if you click on old links you may just get lucky and get all the online options for 50% off. The most experiential ones are the mobility membership for really feeling your physical body (and includes the hips course, shoulder course, foot course, body awareness course, bodywork videos, and blogs) and The Supportive Mind course for tuning into your mental and spiritual worlds and expanding while getting to know them.
Also, FYI women when you’re on your bleed portion of your cycle it makes sense to be more introspective and naturally more inward/less social. Don’t fight it, ride it. Take advantage of the time.
Planning to write a paid article soon about the roots of trauma.
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