It's rough seeing people flailing around when I know the shifts that happen from "hippie shit" they're not open to
A friend of a friend can't date anyone who hasn't done ayahuasca
Talking to people who aren’t into deep dives is tough for me.
It’s like standing next to somebody who just ran a marathon and is beat to shit. We’re both next to a table with cups of water all over it, but they don’t want to stop talking about how thirsty they are. They don’t even see the water. It’s right there.
People are so blocked off and terrified and skeptical of the illogical paths that are necessary to change that they would rather do anything else.
I realize finally that I cannot make anyone’s totality of problems go away (nor am I the one “doing” anything), but if I get someone to talk at depth about one specific problem that is causing them distress I feel confident there is no way I can’t help guide a resolution.
What I’ve never gotten good enough at is bridging the gap, which indicates a failing in my understanding of people — bridging the chasm that is on fire and has crocodiles at the bottom of it — that people see when it comes to the idea that their psyche or their spiritual selves has anything to do with the problems that they’re experiencing.
If you have skin problems you have an issue with losing something or leaving something.
If you have inexplicable fears you have a past-life issue that needs resolving and with which the fear will disappear.
If you have some problem that’s causing you emotional pain there is deeper to go inward about it to discover the gifts it’s trying to help you gather.
I dgaf if it sounds like gaslighting.
You and I both have much to learn about ourselves, forever. It will always feel good to blame things outside of ourselves, and our egos will spit hellfire at the idea that we want what we have, and sometimes you have to go pretty far out into a soul’s journey to figure out why that could be. But the truth is out there.
Beliefs that are positioned as judgements against the world are massive moments of inquiry.
It’s terribly hard for me to comfort a friend who isn’t used to taking responsibility for their emotions. It’s a minefield trying to choose words that don’t ask them to go deeper into their stories, or even ask, “Why?”
Asking “why?” 5x would help so many situations without even getting into astral planes or meditations but most people are so deathly afraid of knowing more about themselves that even that brings up fear and an ejection sequence.
I was on a date with a girl once (I think the only date I’ve had with a girl?) and before the end of it she was asking me why I was asking all these questions, why I was talking to her like a psychologist.
And my last relationship partially ended because he thought every time I asked him to feel something or that there could possibly be something underneath what he already thought was me trying to coach him. Anything that even touched on feeling was an electrified fence.
I have learned how better to respect people’s boundaries since then.
But holy hell it hasn’t gotten easier to watch people be afraid to make an acquaintance with the deeper parts of themselves.