Just being honest

I have this theory that if we just keep being honest, back and forth, that eventually it all works out.

Enter EMOTIONS

I think if we could all stay in the room while people are honest, over and over, it would eventually work out. The energy disperses. Understanding is reached.

But it’s so intricately tied up in emotions.

We don’t want to hear things because we don’t like how it feels.

So we don’t want to say things because we know the other person doesn’t want to hear things because it makes them feel things. We have all these stories about what that means or could mean. It brings up feelings.

So the honesty doesn’t lead to a new thought the same way because it’s couched in apprehension and concern.

And then there’s being honest about your feelings - who even knows what they’re feeling? (Everyone, if they tried, is able to express what they are feeling at whatever degree they are able. But the choice to express it is often left unsaid.)

You can honestly say what you are feeling.

It’s less honest to say “you made me feel this” than it is to say “I feel this” without blaming the person. You don’t know if that’s why you’re feeling it. Trust me, there’s so much more to sorting out the root of things and it’s never the person you’re blaming for your feelings. Of course, if that’s what you are thinking and feeling that would be honest too.

So nobody is being honest.

Oh, look - there’s a tv. That’s easier than being honest and staying in the room will full faith that this is going somewhere good.

Since so few are able to sit and let each other work out their feelings - there are subterfuges because being honest is good for your energy.

Often through writing it out, talking with another person, or even saying things out loud to thin air or to nature or to a stuffed pillow can let the inflammatory stuff go without any negative effects.

When you hit that sweet spot of “oh, that’s what is truly honest”, you feel it. Somatic honesty is a feeling of things locking into place, of puzzle pieces synching up, of gnosis - real knowing.

In my mentorship a couple of years ago that was a big focus. Getting to know what’s honest.

I’m still working on it too.

P.S. I just left. It was the hardest thing.