Social Media
I’m likely taking a few days off of social media, if not a week, maybe after tomorrow or Saturday.
I have an event on Sunday - a live in-person in San Diego at Nalu Healing Ranch where I’ll be administering medicine at Azimah’s Monthly Women’s Circle - Things Your Mama Don’t Want You Talkin’ Bout. I love her medicine so much.
It’s a free event, at noon, and I’ll be leading a few embodiment exercises like hand massages between women, my famous “voodoo doll” meditation/introduction to parts work, and inquiries about the parts that the women in attendance feel most curious toward. MmmmmmmmMM! Register here.
I think social media is great for advertising things for me. It’s great for research and finding passionate people. It’s great for making friends who you vibe with when it seems difficult to do so at home. Perhaps it’s even great for figuring out a new place to live. Or to be advertised to! I love the ads I get sometimes.
I live with someone now who was once an online client and the first person I lived with here in San Diego I met because another online friend invited me to an event she was attending, that I’m sure she found online.
I made a bunch of IG Stories (short videos that disappear in 24 hours) today, some of which were about how 3 things I saw in kids at Wild Child I had some vision of helping because of my time on social media absorbing things.
My favorite thing to do to use Instagram as a search engine is to find a hashtag worth following or just look one up for something I’m interested in, then skim through and check out the comments below some posts. Knowledgable people show up in these niche environments and whether they’re bad mouthing or praising someone can often turn me onto a new spot of research via a book, YouTube video, or maybe Telegram, which I can’t get working lately so ptthhbbbt on it. If the hashtag is specialized and not shitty enough I’ll follow it sometimes and be regularly fed people’s posts who I don’t follow but use the hashtag. I met all of my IFS coaches and therapists I worked with this way and all of my myofunctional therapy stuff came off of discovering #tongueties were a thing, then #frenectomy, then #myofunctionaltherapy and #holisticdentistry.
The three kid examples and references are:
The DNS kid, who I heard say once, “My back hurts,” when carrying his backpack on a hike. I did other things with him, like ask if we could share and both carry it together, and sometimes take his lunch and put it in my bag because it was kinda heavy for a little guy, but I also immediately had a hunch about how his early-stage development went (he was 3 and change I think). I bet he didn’t crawl much, because thanks to Dr. Locatelli Rao and Dr. Lindsay Mumma I know that DNS/The Prague School exists, and there are a certain order to developmental stages that contribute to a functional supportively-structured body and diaphragm. Adults can fix things by going and developing their structure through exercises mimicking these stages.
This was confirmed by his dad when I asked about his crawling, that he had practically skipped it and spent very little time there, especially compared to his sibling. I gave him a notecard with Dynamic Neuromuscular Stabilization written on it and the idea that he may rabbit hole it himself or find a chiropractor or someone that works with kids on it. It also serves to help cognitive development, because physical development is cognitive development. Not that there aren’t Stephen Hawkings in the world with deformed bodies who are geniuses, but in general it helps to have function in order to function.
The cross-bite kid. This kid chews funny and kinda talks out of one side of his mouth and has to try very hard to speak, it’s very intense. It’s cute at his 3 year old age but I can see the amount of effort it takes. This kid also has some questionable attention things and is very adventurous to the point of not having a ton of regard for his own safety at times? Mom was very cool when I mentioned myofunctional therapy to her, which could balance out his bite and his development, and potentially his demeanor. She said he had just started reporting headaches on one side. If they do go find someone to help with things I think they’ll get great results by using exercise to change his skull development and bite.
The eye-darter. This little girl told me her “daddy doesn’t let her watch tv.” I’d asked her about it because I was willing to bet she was on screens all the time. Her eyes rarely focus on you and it’s almost like she has difficulty most of the time even trying to. They move on quickly and she’ll talk to you while her eyes look somewhere else. Even though her words made sense her attention lasts all of seconds and her moods are flashes in the pan. I figured I was wrong after she told me that. Then I told dad what she said and he laughed and said she wants it so much she has more screens than mom and dad do. I’m willing to bet that because dad EVER tells her to turn off the tv that she thinks “dad doesn’t let me watch TV.” I forwarded the info that she could probably really benefit from a screen detox to one of the other preschool teachers because he has a relationship with the parents, and because I got fired. I also included a reference to a local place called S10 Fitness who do beautiful work with eye training. Visual stimulation is a HUGE part of our processing, (there’s even a trauma-resolution system called EMDR that is based on eye movements), and getting vision shifted - via exercises - that change that patterning can have massive effects on the entire brain and body. S10 at least uses if not is based on a group called Z-Health, if you want to look some stuff up for yourself.
Wait, what?
What was that about getting fired?
It’s cool, we’re on good terms. It’s more accurate to say I was let go to pursue what I’m really meant to in life, which at this writing moment is helping moms in their homes. I’ll write more about it later.
But that’s why I’m probably taking 3-7 days off of social media. Because it’s great for research, advertising, finding clients, it’s great for fun, finding people, and avoiding things, and a friend to any time I have reached a threshold and want to dissociate and I love it for all of that it does for me, and it’s the worst thing if it’s time to turn inward and birth creatively.
I’m on that wave right now.
I also started training Jiu-Jitsu again this week thanks to Azimah, her wonderful husband and my friend as well Eric at Victory MMA that got me going and got me rolling, and Rita with Gracie South Bay. My body is really feeling Jiu-Jitsu right now. I was surprised with how at home I felt in a more formal gym like Gracie South Bay (with Rita) but I suppose since most of my career was spent bowing off and on the mat and to Helio Gracie photos on the walls it makes sense that the familiarity would feel kinda nice. Plus Rita is just a joyful ebullient and brilliant person, so that had a lot to do with it.
I will be accepting more clients for session work as I develop this plan for the future, and my scheduling just flew open for next week. What are you waiting for?