WALKING - OK? SO IT’S MOVING YOUR BODY OVER THE GROUND BY YOURSELF, NO WHEELS.
IT MOVES YOUR LYMPH, IT MOVES YOUR MUSCLES, YOUR EYESIGHT WILL IMPROVE.
I’m going to tangent this with another idea I don’t talk about in the audio -
Group chores. Cleaning party. What, you say? Doing chores together sounds dumb! Why would I want to do that with my friends. My friends don’t want to do that!
For the same reason walking 5 miles outside feels incredible and right, my friends. It’s because we evolved to walk and to do things with other humans that benefit us.
We love and get chemically rewarded when we help people, and we all need to clean our kitchens and go grocery shopping.
If I had friends come over to help clean it would be doing things with my friends and get done faster.
Have challenges?
Decide what you are willing to get their help with and start from there. Maybe it’s something you hate doing. Maybe it’s something you’re willing to give up doing, say if you think mopping the floor is pretty simple but you’d never let your friend clean your bathroom, you could clean your bathroom while your friend mops your floor.
I imagine, as most new ideas are, that it would be awkward at first.
But the vision I see is of socially starved people engaging with and helping each other on a rotating schedule to each others’ places, inevitably sharing laughing and food and intimacy without paying someone else to do things, or maybe even needing to go out and spend money in order to hang out with your friends.
What would you be willing to help your friends with? Is there anything you’re a hard no to?
Maybe grocery shopping together would be more helpful.
Look, if you have a single friend with no kids, like me, I bet they’d absolutely love to help you while they hang out with you. And if they don’t, fuck em. LOL!
Moms, what do you have to do each week? How many of these things line up with your other mom friends? What would it take to have a playdate where you help each other clean? I wonder if the kids would get involved or otherwise be influenced by the actions. How good would it feel to have some support? Is there a little, interested part inside of you peeking out from behind the beliefs that you have to do everything yourself?
As with any new thing, my advice would be to start as small as possible, even making it laughable and easy to check off.
Make list.
Try it once a month, switching to the other person’s place the next month. Don’t fret too much if it’s a little shorter or a little longer in time before you get to it, but do it.
Or try picking a single chore for one another and plan the “reward” you’re going to do together afterwards, even if that is going and spending money somewhere together!
Would you rather work out? Go for a walk together and accomplish it socially, or meet at the gym.
I feel in my heart of hearts that we need to rebuild communities and communities help one another out with practical things that need doing.
If someone needs a house, the men in the village get together and build him a house - something I read recently about indigenous men asking about the homeless people they saw in the US.
You and me probably already have houses.
But we are lonely. We need each other. Let’s act like it.
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