Twas the Day After Christmas

I’m joining a mentorship group!

This was the newsletter from Carolyn Lovewell (Existential Kink) that got me to click and start the process:

Ohhhhhh my, what a long, twisty journey learning to transform my inner critical animus voice has been for me personally.

You might want to take advantage of the short cut in available in the frequency of this transmission from Rory and David:
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​Most of us are all too familiar with the cruel, relentless voice of the inner critic:

"You're not working hard enough!"

"You're not showing up for your responsibilities!"

"You don't know what you're doing!"

"Everything's going to fall apart if you don't BE BETTER!"

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He's that part of you that constantly points out your flaws and failings - where you're falling short in your life and all the ways in which you need to do and be better.

Nothing is good enough to please him - when you struggle or falter, he's on your back and at your throat with the unrelenting whip of his harsh words.

And when you *do* perform well and succeed in life, you're meeting his status quo and your only reward is a brief respite from his punishment... until he reminds you of the next area where you're falling short.

He's all stick and no carrot.

For women especially, this voice often shows up as a strict, near-tyrannical inner father figure - known in Jungian psychology as the "negative animus".

It's all too common for the awakening Feminine to get in touch with her Eros - her vitality, desire, primal life force energy - and begin to feel motivated and inspired to pursue her beautiful dream life...

... only to then be walloped HARD by the immense pressure of the commitment and discipline it takes to bring that vision into reality.

When this voice kicks in completely understandable feel drained, defeated, and begin to *actively avoid* doing anything that will ignite the punishing tirades of the animus.

Imagine if, instead of experiencing your animus as a brutal and demanding dictator...

... that same voice became the supportive and encouraging tones of a kind, loving Daddy?

What if your animus was benevolently guiding you in managing your responsibilities and building your confidence?

Wouldn't that be a huge relief?

Well, good news! The animus transformation from a**hole abuser to compassionate, devoted ally is completely possible.

In fact, the tyrant is happy to learn how to be the champion.

The truth is, that oppressive critical voice deeply LOVES you, cares about you, and SINCERELY WANTS you to be happy, successful and thriving.

He's the masculine part of you that's in charge of creating structure for your life, instilling discipline to meet your goals, and ultimately helping you feel really, really good about yourself.

Poor guy just never learned how to *actually* give you these gifts in a nourishing and sustainable way.

The healthy, integrated Masculine lives in devoted service to the Truth of what genuinely supports the Feminine Eros and brings her gift fully into the world.

He knows that the Feminine grows through praise and showers her with love at every opportunity.

He continually seeks the good, finds the good and praises the good.

He knows that you never lose, you only win or learn.

And he shows you that learning always serves your growth and can even be fun (imagine that! ).

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The verb "husbanding" means "to use something very carefully and make sure you do not waste it."

Your animus can be a generous, loving daddy AND a wise, economical husband managing the the precious resource of your Eros...

... guiding you to do what's needed without burning out...

... and filling you with love and encouragement in the process.

(And if you think it's a little weird to have a husband who's also your daddy... don't worry about it father, king, husband, lover: it's all wrapped up into the greater archetype of the Divine Masculine).

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This is the type of mature masculine leadership David and I practice daily with our brilliant, visionary wives Carolyn and Laila - navigating the responsibilities of family and work, tending to the details of life, and creating the space for relaxing nourishment and love so that the vibrant dream of their Feminine Eros can flourish and bring more and more blessings into our lives and the people around us.

And this is the frequency of Masculine Devotion and Truth we bing to True North.

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Our commitment is to support you in serving your Eros, your True Desire...

... not only by giving your animus the tools to more easily navigate and organize your life for your greatest benefit and success...

... but also by giving a direct download of how the Masculine alignment with Truth, responsibility and discipline can be deeply nourishing, relieving and loving.

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So if your inner tyrant animus needs Charm School apply today.

Whatcha think? I talk about my experience applying for True North at the end of this podcast, after discussing what it means to do something “right” for someone or for myself, the ways I’ve been grieving the selling of my car, which I did today (yay/bawling/I contain multitudes), and why Christmas alone kind of rocked this year.